I feel...

if a man truly loves a woman...he will do all possible to make sure she is
secure and safe.....forever...

.not the minimal...and definitely beyond what he has
done for prior ladies ....

we have pretty good instincts for this stuff....we can sense other ladies receiving attention, pampering, and his spirit wandering...and it is hurtful....

no girl wants to feel like second par...and also if she has been lovingly and devotingly
sacrificing her life and really all her time in the day ...for months to him...out of just sheer
natural devotion and love...you would think he would consider this very valuable and dear and special to him...and that it would be rewarded in many ways and levels ..lol :) especially if she has been like a full time girlfriend for months,staying up not just the day but also the night with him...

you cannot just devalue this or act like it did not go on,,.just as admitting there were a lot of proposals, promises, dangling temptations, announcements, of "we are in love," etc,..to encourage her beliefs...

it's not like she just made up the importance of her to him, and "us" in her head...it was very much encouraged by him, every day :)

She really wants to feel special, safe, amazingly loved, and belong to him....& definitely more special than any other girl currently in his life or before...

i also feel, approaching things from a place of fear and conservatism just looks really like you don't love her and it hurts her feelings...